Everyone has been through a tough break up. It’s not a pleasant time for either person. I’m going to give you some of my best tips for getting over ‘that boy’.
1. The number ONE rule for breaking up is DELETING THEM. I’m not saying be petty and block your boo after ya’ll get into a fight, or are taking a break. When you know that you and that person are over for good you need to delete him off snap and any other social media. This also means taking all the pictures off your wall.
2 .Stop communicating with the person you broke up with. I hear of so many people who keep interacting with their ex and to be honest it’s just toxic for the both of you. You broke up for a reason and either you two want to be together or you are just wasting each other’s time. Stop texting, calling or seeing each other asap
3. Speak only kind words about that person. I know that the relationship might have not turned out the way you wanted it to, but it does not mean you need to verbally destroy your ‘ex’ significant other. I promise you, during a break up is when all the drama comes out. No matter who you talk to (unless it’s your mom) the conversation will get back to the other person.
4. Do your best to avoid places you two used to go. Rather you had a favorite restaurant or you both loved getting ice cream, make sure to steer clear of these places during post break up season. You will get sad and nostalgic. The last thing you need is a cry sesh while you’re trying to eat your fav meal.
5. “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else” is NOT a true statement. I promise you that trying to find a band aid in someone else will not make your pain go away. If anything, you will be hiding your emotions. I say you need a max of 3 weeks of you and girl time before you can think of talking to someone else.
6. Have plenty of Girl Time. Your friends are the people that will always be there all the time, your friends are the people that make you feel better. Make sure to dress up and go to dinner, or go see a movie.
7. Do NOT look back at old pictures. I do not care if it has been a couple of weeks or a couple of months. Do not let your mind trick you into start bringing out the old couple pics. Not only is it going to make you sad, it’s going to make you forget why you two broke up in the first place. There’s always a reason why you two called it quits so no matter how much you miss him, remember that reason.
8.Listen to your mom. During many relationships, my mother has told me things about a boy that I really did not want to hear. She ended up always knowing what she was talking about. Listen to her because she probably has more experience.
9. If he acts like he doesn’t care, believe him. This is a tip that goes for that weird period where you are still together but kind of at the breaking up stage. If your boyfriend is acting like he doesn’t care/ want to hang out believe him. You cannot force someone to do something they don’t want to do.
10. Do not look on his social media accounts. This means don’t go look on his twitter or his ig trying to find something out. I promise that this will make you feel even worse than when you started the search. Also, whatever you do, DO NOT GO LOOK AT HIS NEW GIRL.
Until Next Time,
Anyone who knows me, knows I talk to almost everyone I meet. I can sit down and find out someone’s life story in a five-minute conversation. I’m very nosey and am not afraid to ask questions if I’m interested in something. For example, I was at an Eric Church concert earlier this year and I was sitting next to this lady who was alone. She was singing along to every song hardcore and super excited to see Eric. I was observing her and was convinced that she knew Eric personally. We had an intermission and I told my mom that she was probably going to meet up with him right now. She, of course, laughed and said she would be behind stage if that was true. When the lady came back, I asked her straight up “do you know Eric Church?” She laughed and told me no and wanted to know why I asked. I responded with you’re so excited for him. She told me that she follows him around to his tours. She’s been to many shows and usually ends up by herself because none of her friends like country music. I told her how strong and independent that was and I aspire to be like that. We talked about boys and I learned her story of how she ended up on a trip in Europe by herself again! I started asking her questions about her job, her schooling, and of course what the future held. This woman was so interesting and I was so into her life story. She was a photo editor for a major magazine. She had even interned for Oprah after college like whaaa??? Before we ended the conversation, I told her that if she ever needed a Europe partner I would happily go with her (hey, if you’re reading this that offer still stands).
As I’ve been in Disney, I’ve been talking to many strangers. I have been waiting in hour-long lines so I can’t just sit in silence. The ladies I’m with have an ongoing joke that my ‘pick-up’ line is “Are you from here?” That’s how I get the conversation rolling normally.
The first person I met was a woman (didn’t get the name) and her service dog Samantha. This woman and her husband were in Disney for a marriage conference. Her service dog was so cool and collected and I had been eyeing her most of the line. I overheard a conversation with her and another person and decided to jump in. She’s had Samantha for almost six months. The lady has a heart condition where her pup can sense the smell her body gives off before the condition happens. She also told me that there are six or seven different conditions that dogs can smell, one of them being migraines. We finished the conversation with me telling her about how I wanted to raise a service puppy. Later in the line, she let us pet Samantha and we received some pretty intense face kisses. I ended up seeing her around the park a couple more times throughout the day, and each time I smile came to my face.
A few days later, I was in animal kingdom waiting in the gruesomely long line for the new Avatar ride. While I was waiting, I started talking to this cute little family. It was a mom and her two daughters. I found out that they were from Toronto. The mother explained to me about how multicultural the city is. She told me that just on a drive you can see authentic neighborhoods of all types of cultures. The little girls told me that they got to skip school to come to Disney for a week!! I told them that their mom was the coolest mom. I learned about what Toronto was like. The girls explained to me about their schooling and how they are fully emerged in French (yes, I made her speak it to me). When they graduate from high school, the two girls will be bilingual. This program helps them to be able to work for the government. The mother was also a very interesting person. She told me how she travels a lot. I went on to learn about how she lived in the UK, Thailand, and Honduras. She told me how she was adopted and her adoptive dad traveled around. He worked on helping third world countries get water by building water pumps. She told us how maybe one day she would take her kids to live in the UK because that was her favorite place. She gave us all the advice to travel as much as you can, to get the most education possible, and to do whatever makes you happy. The mom kept reiterating that we needed to travel, if our rent and bills were paid we could go wherever we wanted. I loved learning about this lady’s life and she was a magical part of that night.
Still in animal kingdom, I met a young man that worked there. I was a single rider and so was he. He jumped on the Mount Everest ride with me and automatically introduced himself. He was so bubbly and made me smile the whole ride. Even though the ride was less than two minutes, we talked the whole time and he was such a fun person. He made me throw my ONLY hair tie on to this hill. He said 'everyone did it and it would bring me good luck'. We decided to make the yeti pose when the picture was taken and this is how it turned out.
I’m in love with talking to people and asking questions. One man I met at the beach asked me if I was a detective (hi Rick). I want to learn to listen to others. I want to start educating and growing myself through what others have to say. As Frank Tyger says, “be a good listener, your ears will never get you in trouble.
Hope you have a magical day,
P.S. I would love to read any comments of a time when you’ve randomly met someone